Conversing with my brother Robert always brings some great thoughts and perspective in me. I love him dearly. His understanding of my feelings at times is wonderful because we have endured pretty much the same childhood and early life lessons.
Our chat ended off with this particular thought, we said it two ways:
I said: "Just as some medicines have things in them that can cause negative side effects or fatality. Some people, although they may be a blessing to you at the time, come with things you need to remedy after their interaction with you.”
Robert said in response: “Just like some medicines are great for the time and situation they were prescribed for, to continue to gravitate to those medicines can have adverse effects. That situation is over. Leave the meds behind and move on.”
We were not talking about medication but about prolonged interaction with some family members...well people in general.
While we need and love people, *Starts singing...i need you....you need me.....we're all a part of God's body*, we also need to sometimes limit interaction and access to ourselves and our children because of the adverse effects the interaction can cause.
If interaction with anyone, family or friend, produces disobedience or defiance in your children you need to check it. People try to make some things / statements harmless but in the end it doesn’t matter what its about…defiance is defiance and without obedience to those who have charge over you, you’ll NEVER learn the lessons you need to live.
If interaction with anyone produces a depressed feeling in you, you need to limit or eliminate it.
If interaction with anyone makes you feel defeated it doesn’t matter who they are you need to correct the interaction, limit it or eliminate it.
In my opinion, it is as simple as that. I've had to learn the art of loving people from afar. I am SURE that some of my loved ones may have had to do that with me a time or two in my lack of maturity days.
I will say, that my past will not dictate my future or the future of my children.
Our chat ended off with this particular thought, we said it two ways:
I said: "Just as some medicines have things in them that can cause negative side effects or fatality. Some people, although they may be a blessing to you at the time, come with things you need to remedy after their interaction with you.”
Robert said in response: “Just like some medicines are great for the time and situation they were prescribed for, to continue to gravitate to those medicines can have adverse effects. That situation is over. Leave the meds behind and move on.”
We were not talking about medication but about prolonged interaction with some family members...well people in general.
While we need and love people, *Starts singing...i need you....you need me.....we're all a part of God's body*, we also need to sometimes limit interaction and access to ourselves and our children because of the adverse effects the interaction can cause.
If interaction with anyone, family or friend, produces disobedience or defiance in your children you need to check it. People try to make some things / statements harmless but in the end it doesn’t matter what its about…defiance is defiance and without obedience to those who have charge over you, you’ll NEVER learn the lessons you need to live.
If interaction with anyone produces a depressed feeling in you, you need to limit or eliminate it.
If interaction with anyone makes you feel defeated it doesn’t matter who they are you need to correct the interaction, limit it or eliminate it.
In my opinion, it is as simple as that. I've had to learn the art of loving people from afar. I am SURE that some of my loved ones may have had to do that with me a time or two in my lack of maturity days.
I will say, that my past will not dictate my future or the future of my children.
