Reciprocity
Reciprocity is such a fluid thing. I do not think it is a concept that we can completely sum up or give an unmoving margin to. I believe that it is very situational and individualized to specific relationships and circumstances. I wanted to share some of my thoughts and process on reciprocity.
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Reciprocity should be free flowing, organic, unrehearsed, not restricted, not compulsory.
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Our views and heart towards reciprocity should be selective. We should use wisdom in our expectation of reciprocity. There is an old adage that says “You cannot get blood from a turnip”.
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Do not let what you give be solely driven by what that person can give in return. If your intention is to help, let that be the motive and what compels you. What you give can be fully self-propelled. My preference is to isolate my motivation for giving to the simple fact that I wanted to give it.
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While eliminating it in all cases would be foolish, minimize your NEED for reciprocity in any situation that you can.
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Remember that eliminating the desire reciprocity in all cases would be a blatant disregard to you. Shout out to all the empaths that share this problem. If a person repeatedly disregards what you give them, in any way, stop giving it to them. Do not deplete yourself to see that they do not deserve it. They do not appreciate or value it.
- Get in the habit of protecting yourself from consumers. If you see that a person only takes or if you see that they are not at all mindful of how much they are taking… set the limits. It is my experience that a consumer will not limit what they take from you.
- Do not overextend yourself or give what your life requires, i.e. bill money. Give what you can, when you can, as freely and joyfully as you can. When it is that simple, you are not hurt if the person cannot or will not give it back.
- Give and don’t remember – Receive and don’t forget
- Keep a clean pipeline to reduce bitterness. Do not hold an account of what you think you deserve from people. That hardens the heart. Give because you want to… Call because you want to… Text because you want to. Holding people to requirements could cause resentment. Watch your expectations.
- Everyone’s system of reciprocity is different.
- Do not hold on to unspoken requisites with your loved ones. Be clear.
I hope this is helpful or interesting. I am always looking for input and discussion! Leave your comments any time.
-Catherine Elizabeth
Reciprocity
Reciprocity is such a fluid thing. I do not think it is a concept that we can completely sum up or give an unmoving margin to. I believe that it is very situational and individualized to specific relationships and circumstances. I wanted to share some of my thoughts and process on reciprocity.
- Reciprocity should be free flowing, organic, unrehearsed, not restricted, not compulsory.
- Our views and heart towards reciprocity should be selective. We should use wisdom in our expectation of reciprocity. There is an old adage that says “You cannot get blood from a turnip”.
- Do not let what you give be solely driven by what that person can give in return. If your intention is to help, let that be the motive and what compels you. What you give can be fully self-propelled. My preference is to isolate my motivation for giving to the simple fact that I wanted to give it.
- While eliminating it in all cases would be foolish, minimize your NEED for reciprocity in any situation that you can.
- Remember that eliminating the desire reciprocity in all cases would be a blatant disregard to you. Shout out to all the empaths that share this problem. If a person repeatedly disregards what you give them, in any way, stop giving it to them. Do not deplete yourself to see that they do not deserve it. They do not appreciate or value it.
- Get in the habit of protecting yourself from consumers. If you see that a person only takes or if you see that they are not at all mindful of how much they are taking… set the limits. It is my experience that a consumer will not limit what they take from you.
- Do not overextend yourself or give what your life requires, i.e. bill money. Give what you can, when you can, as freely and joyfully as you can. When it is that simple, you are not hurt if the person cannot or will not give it back.
- Give and don’t remember – Receive and don’t forget
- Keep a clean pipeline to reduce bitterness. Do not hold an account of what you think you deserve from people. That hardens the heart. Give because you want to… Call because you want to… Text because you want to. Holding people to requirements could cause resentment. Watch your expectations.
- Everyone’s system of reciprocity is different.
- Do not hold on to unspoken requisites with your loved ones. Be clear.
-Catherine Elizabeth
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